Burnout that looked like success
Ray 44yo, Construction company owner
Business owner · Four years
“The business was fine. I was the thing that was broken, and I had built a life where nobody could tell me that.”
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Burnout that looked like success
176 wordsLife before I started
Eleven years running a company that grew faster than I did. Ninety-hour weeks framed as commitment.
What I was experiencing
Exhaustion, cynicism, no appetite for anything I used to like, and a physical sense of being scraped out.
What I'd tried before
Holidays, delegation, a productivity system, and a brief and unsuccessful attempt at a sabbatical.
What I explored
Therapy, strength training, a hard boundary on my calendar, and a five-day silent retreat.
What happened
The retreat was the first time in a decade I was alone with my own thinking for more than an hour. It was awful for two days and then it was not.
What surprised me most
That my identity was almost entirely load-bearing on the company.
What didn't help
Holidays. Every time, I came back and burned out again within a month.
What I'm still working through
Delegating anything client-facing. Working on it.
What I learned about myself
That burnout is not fixed by rest. It is fixed by changing what you go back to.
Where I am now
Still running the business, at about sixty percent of the hours, with a leadership team that exists now.
What I'd tell someone starting out
If rest fixes it, it was tiredness. If rest does not fix it, the structure is the problem.
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